Thursday, April 12, 2012

Middle Man



I realised something today, I'm a middle man. I don't have the balls to carry something through.

I'm the person who huff and puffs, shakes my head, or says something under my breath, not the person yelling with my fist in the air, or demanding someone get out of the way.

Today standing in line at Woolies, the self check out bit *, a woman with a trolley pushed in. I turned to the young woman behind me and said "what a rude woman!" but that's it, I didn't do anything about. Then all hell broke loose! The poor Woolies worker who stands there to monitor and help people, had to ask her to go to the back of a very long que. She stood there for a moment and demanded to stay. The young girl being me kept saying, "but we saw you push in!!!!!" pointing to me as well. You can imagine, im going all shades of RED! I don't like confrontation and this was escalating. Then the women with the trolley pulled the racist card, we all just looked at her, not knowing what to say. Then the poor lovely Woolies worker, grabbed her trolley and just pushed it out of the way. She then motioned to me to use that self checkout....SHIT, why was i next???? AND I HAD GEORGI WITH ME!!! I was so nervous someone was going to be hit, and with my luck it would be me.

The trolley women, pushed the trolley my way, missing me only cause the Woolies worker grabbed it, and she stormed off, spewing some sort of vile words in our direction, all in another language I was grateful to not understand.

All I fracken wanted were a few things for the baby! I quickly scanned my few items from my basket, not making any eye contact, and high tailed it out of there.

Since moving to the WEST, I have noticed people are a lot more confrontational out here. I know it is a little nuts to generalise, but I have had so many things like this happen to me. I'm so over it. I cannot wait to get out of this suburb. The sad thing is I love the food shopping here. There are a lot of European, Middle Eastern and Vietnamese foodie places that I love.

Am I being general, snobby even? Or have any of you noticed a difference in manners or attitude when living or even visiting different suburbs?


* NB: The self check out bit should NOT BE FOR PEOPLE WITH TROLLEY'S!!!!!! IT IS RIDICULOUS YOU DO NOT FIT LINING UP WITH A TROLLEY IN THE AILSE, GO TO A CHECKOUT PERSON ASAP!.....please.

16 comments:

  1. Agreed. People there are c****

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    1. Not all, let's be clear, just some people are RUDE!

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  2. Seriously. I don't know how you cope living 'out there' maybeim racist??? I think I would be too scared!
    I'd probably be the same ad you and just say something to the person behind me... Sometimes I wish I was confident enough to speak up a little more often.
    Hey! Just move to Melbourne!!! Ha ha!

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    1. To be honest, I am kinda nervous about living here, but cause of the baby I have no choice. AND I love to go out, i hate sitting around at home all the time.

      I would love to move to Melbs, but it is the whole getting a job thing, for hubs, that is the most challenging. I would love to just have a lovely home, not too big or too small.

      Thanks for your comment Sammie.

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  3. 1000000000% even in Adelaide you notice that when you go to the more affluent areas the snobbier people get. I am not saying you are being a snob but by the area you go into you can tell what the people are like. I have lived both east and west and at the moment I am in the west ( less rich area ). Going to the shopping centre with the less fortunate sometimes is a nightmare. I often think they go through the self check out so they can scam a few extra goodies sometimes.I dont know why they let whole trolley loads through that area anyway. The process takes 100000 longer. The people in my area - are mainly ... well basically english is there second language. They use the self checkouts with trolley loads taking ages to find the barcode scanning it placing in the trolley then of course they screw something up and then they have to wait for an attendent to come and help them. OHHHHH and I have also heard chatter when they go through this checkout they scan the "cheap" tomato's for the russ vine tomato's and just pull off the greenery so they look the same. Thats alot of thought for a saving. I am like you too Leah I am the middle person. I have given the finger in the car before to someone but thats about it. Especially when I have cut them off BY ACCIDENT and they go MENTALLLLLLLLL.
    I remember being in the KMART carpark once and I pulled out ever so slightly and this huge 4wheel drive with a mum came out and beeped her horn for about 15 seconds at me. I said sorry and waved and went back in and she went NUTSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS waving her hands at me shaking her head screaming at me. It was like I had taken her children away from her. I flipped her the finger and drove off. People are insane. No your not a snob. Yes areas are worse then others.

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    1. Ive seen people "scanning" the wrong cheaper fruit or veg all the time! NUTS!
      Thanks for your comment Soph xo

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  4. Bahaha, omg yes. I cannot STAND people who take full trolleys intot he self-check place, where we with, like, 5 small items have to wiat half an hour for them to be completely incompetent. And then, half the time, they'll try to buy something like alcohol there which isn't possible, so they have to get help to cancel everything and move over to the real aisle... AAAAAH!!!

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    1. Hallelujah, someone who understands my trolley, wrong que pain!
      xo

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  5. I do think there is a noticeable difference in demographics between suburbs. I was raised in the West (Altona), my husband in the North (Thomastown) (both West and North are lower property price areas) and we both moved to the East (Balwyn) (higher property price). Clothing, schools, properties, even the prices in the same chains of supermarkets differ depending on which area you are in. To make a generalisation based on my personal experiences, people in the North and West tend to be more 'vocal' with their opinions and less considerate of others, I've never had an experience like yours in the Eastern subs but I definitely have when we have gone back to visit our relos in the North and West.

    Down here if someone cut in I would politely tell them that there is a line and point to the end of it, if I was back in my old neighbourhood I wouldn't even bother as most likely the person who cut in would be willing to escalate the whole thing more than I would be. You have to pick your battles, and like I told hubby when someone stole the carspace we had been waiting for when visiting family, that this was NOT one of those moments to stand up and demand justice, your scenario was also not worth possibly getting into a brawl over.
    Unfortunately some people can become violent over petty things, so it's more often than not, better to let it go and instead just breathe and count your blessings until the irritation subsides.

    Here's to your hubs getting a job in a suburb with more polite and considerate residents!

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    1. I totally agree, i have this fear that it will escalate into some brawl, over such a petty thing. *sigh* Better off not saying anything and walking away.

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  6. Oh you poor thing! And there are demographic differences although I haven't spent a lot of time in the west to really get a good idea. I am crossing fingers that you get to move, you should always feel comfortable where you live :)

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    1. Fingers and toes thanks Lorraine :)

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    2. OMG I'd go bright red too! So often I do, actually. Trust your instincts, I say, especially with little G. Staying quiet can be good if you feel unsafe!
      Heidi xo

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    3. Heidi goo to know im not the only one who goes red! :P

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  7. I'm like you when these sort of incidents happen so I know how you feel. I moved to the northern (or north western suburbs depending on who you ask) of Melbourne a few years back from the other side of town and I noticed the difference in manners for sure, particularly so in the supermarket. I used to go to one of the closest ones to us where there was a contingent of older ladies who would like to stand behind your full trolley in the checkout with their 3 items - completely ignorning the empty express and self service checkouts - and then just push in front as though it was the most natural thing in the world. It happened so much and they were so rude (pretending to not understand the problem) I ended up deciding to drive to the next suburb to do the shopping from then on because it was just not worth all the drama. My new supermarket is much bigger, better and people are nicely behaved :) Hopefully you'll move to somewhere you feel more comfortable soon, or at least find a soltion to make life a bit happier for you :)

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    1. WOW!!! I can understand why you would want to drive elsewhere, i bet it is much more peaceful!

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