"Ask yourself, what am I doing about my anger, my attachment, my pride, my jealousy? These are the things we should check in our daily lives." Dalai Lama.
I seem to be surrounded by so many mums to be. They are everywhere.
Maybe it's cause I'm wanting to be pregnant myself that I think there are SO many around!
But I've been getting more and more upset with other parents, and parents to be, and myself for even caring and being upset about this.
You see im a bit miffed at people being so caught up in materialistic stuff. Stuff for their kids, stuff for themselves, so much STUFF!
When did having stuff become so important? Let me rephrase, certain expensive and pointless stuff? I know
I will come across as jealous. It's the first thing people will think about this post. But I don't mean it too be. I too know it IS a touch of jealousy. Mostly is is a worry that my daughter, will be like this. Thinking that she too needs this STUFF to get by, be popular, have friends etc.
I see it everyday. Mums with their Bugaboo prams, expensive bags and even flashy luxury cars. Don't get me wrong I love all this too, I sometimes use a Chanel bag for a baby bag, but I don't flaunt it. There is nothing wrong with stuff, but I suppose it's the way it is carried? Like it is such a status thing. There is an arrogance with some people I find intolerable, annoying and even shameful, it's depressing.
Its wonderful if you have worked hard for your stuff, even if you haven't, and want to spoil yourself and others. Why not? Especially if you have a crappy job, and you feel like its punishment for something you must of done many lifetimes ago....I know that feeling all too well.
I want my daughter to not be judged for wearing mostly target or hand me down clothes. Or being pushed around in a $20 Big W stroller or a much more expensive pram. One of my wants is for her to be happy, and too understand that having this STUFF, is not going to make your life any better or worse. I see my little girl and think she is amazing. The best thing I have ever made. I want to protect her from everything, sigh.... I know its impossible.
This time of year makes people a little nuts and want to go SO OVER THE TOP. I think everyone needs to take a deep breath, step back and think, will this STUFF really make me or my baby happy? Can we please at the very least, show a little compassion for one another? Or even flash a stranger a big beautiful smile? My daughter does this all the time. She makes so many people happy, even strangers. We need to learn so many things from our children, including the simple things are almost always the best.