Friday, January 18, 2013
How Do You Stop Others From Feeding Your Kid?
How to stop others from feeding your kid?....If only I knew cause this is absolute pet HATE!
Maybe if I had a kid that didn't eat, I wouldn't mind so much. But my little G eats, and when I say she eats, she eats very well. She loves her food, always asking for "more!" To the point that some people have dubbed her Oliver, cause all she says is "more, more MORE!" She would eat till she explodes! She really doesn't stop eating unless there is a far more exciting option. Balloons, other children etc.
I go out of my way to prepare, balanced and healthy meals for her. I love doing this for my whole family. I really do. It's something I get a kick out of. I love seeing G's face light up trying something new. Eating freshly made tofu and sushi or falafel and hummus, all sorts of foods and cultures. She has very rarely said no to anything except meat. She likes meat, but not a lot of it. Yes we eat a lot of vegetarian foods, which she prefers and enjoys more.
This is why I suppose it gets to me that people, family, friends and even strangers, try to give her junk food rubbish. Don't get me wrong, I want my daughter to experience all sorts of foods, even chocolate. But I would like to be the one to give her this, I can control how much she is given. Or at least PLEASE ask me if she can eat it! My biggest disappointment are friends and family. They should support me in my choice's. Choosing to feed my child so healthy most of the time is MY CHOICE. I don't need negative comments, or weird looks because I ask people not to give her this stuff. They look at her, like oh you poor thing, your mother is sooooo controlling, but this is not the case. She has most likely just enjoyed a freshly baked pear and raspberry bread at home, or a fruit and spinach smoothie, or a softly boiled egg with soldiers, or freshly cut fruit salad with yoghurt and muesli. My kid eats really well.
They funny thing is I think I'm looking after my child by making sure she doesn't eat much junk. I've seen kids have packet chips for breakfast for God's sake! This makes me so upset and angry!!! At least give them a yoghurt if you need packet convenience. Or something similar. I realise I'm criticizing these people, the exact thing I hate people doing to me, but I feel like I need to stand up for all the mums that bother to do these things for their children. We are being made out to be the bad guys. I'm sick of going to a children's playgroups, and the only food that I see some kids have is junk! Lollies, chips, chocolates etc, it makes me sick. I need to find a group of adults that enjoy feeding their kids well, and are happy for it, and don't look at it like it is SUCH A CHORE!
This week had been full of such battles, she has been given, without hesitation, biscuits, chocolate, lollies and extra helpings of food, mostly cause she is asking for it "more, more MORE!" People think she is cute, I know she is, but this is no excuse for a nurse in a doctors surgery to offer her a snake, true story this happened a few days ago, of all places....
I am no where near perfect, she has all sorts of food. I just like to limit it a little, if she wants to try chips, she can but just a few... Or a little tiny bit of chocolate. Or the occasional gelato, if I know what its made from etc. I hope I'm helping her to already understand the joy of food. I adore food, but I think the problem with most people is there are no limits. Even for their kids. Do what you like with YOUR child, but don't hand mine a cookie, unless either of her parents say it's ok...
What do you do? Do you simply tell them please don't feed my child? Or do you turn a blind eye and let them enjoy whatever they want? within reason or coarse.